I got
another lesson today about the sad, sudden passing of life. My sister-in-law
called at 6 a.m. to tell my husband his brother, Vic had a heart attack and
died an hour earlier. Gary’s grief was
immediate, his deep felt sorrow evident as his body slumped, like he had just
been hard punched in the stomach, and tears streamed down his face.
Vic was Gary’s
younger brother. They were always close, and along with their baby brother, Joe
shared many happy times growing up together; First in Kansas, then California. Gary tells a story of a time when they still
lived in Kansas and the three young brothers went Trick –or-Treating one
Halloween. Gary recalls it was dark and
patches of snow covered the ground. They
were pleased with their loot as each had a collected a bag full of candy. Somewhere
along the way Vic lost his shoes, and walked for a while with just his socks
on. After a fashion, he stopped, started
to cry and said he couldn’t go any further because his feet hurt. Gary lovingly put his arm around his little
brother and said, “Here, Vic. It’s okay.
Jump up on my back, I’ll carry you the rest of the way”. I’ve heard this story many times through the
years, and always find it endearing as I listen to the love in Gary’s voice as
he tells it, and can picture three little toe-headed boys trudging along the cold
country road on Halloween night, one brother shoeless, the other big brother
carrying him piggy back, while the youngest brother stays near, following closely
behind.
Gary reminisces
about Vic some more, about how they worked together for nearly ten years at
their family owned auto part store , Nu-5 AUTO SUPPLY, and what a hard worker
Vic was. Gary gives tribute to Vic by saying he was a
good father to his daughters Linnea and Kim, a loving husband to his wife of 43
years, Yvonne; a dutiful son, and faithful brother and friend. Gary calls his brother, Vic the ‘Salt
of the Earth’.
Vic was also a caring grandfather, kind uncle,
and sweet brother-in-law to me. I remember Vic was a sun person, and enjoyed
vacationing in Hawaii, but mostly he liked the comfort of his own home and
spending time with his wife, and their dog Patsy.
I can’t help
but think of the fragility of life, and how in a blink of an eye a loved one is
forever gone – no longer do we hear their voice or feel their touch. No longer can we visit, or call them on the
phone to say hello, or I’m sorry, or I love you. There are no more memories to make, memories
to share. The pain is at times
unbearable, and for a while we feel empty, broken and lost. Many of us have known that kind of anguish;
Vic’s wife, his children and brothers know it tonight. But they and I trust God’s grace rains down
on them, and His loving providence will guide them, and all of us who loved Vic through this difficult passage. We can
be further assured with the words from John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, so that
everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life”
Gary says
his brother was ‘Salt of the earth’. A very high compliment, meaning he was a
good, decent, simple, faithful, and caring man always willing to lend a
hand , and give a kind word. Vic, once ‘Salt of the earth’, now adding to the spice of
Heaven.
+ Victor L. Dobbs
(March 3, 1942 – June 11, 2012) Rest in Peace, and Eternal Light Shine upon
you.